Happy Adults(parents and teachers) = Happy Children!
Children are like sponges, they absorb everything(good or bad) happening around them. The emotions of adults(especially parents and teachers), affect them deeply. Your anger, happiness, stress, tension, shouting, and all kind of mood swings make a huge difference in shaping the personality of your child. Only running after improving the IQ of your child , you can’t ignore the EQ. It is believed if high IQ can get you a job, then low EQ can get you fired, and it is never early to start to work on the emotional intelligence of your child. To make your child future-ready, emotional intelligence must be considered as an important parameter. EQ plays an important role in every step of life.
So as a responsible adult, we all must be very careful with our behaviour and portrayal of our emotions around children. How you behave in difficult times, teach your child how to handle difficult situations in life. That’s why we believe strongly in family background, and upbringing of a child, as the behaviour of adults reflects in the behaviour of children. As an adult, we need to study, observe and understand the behaviour and emotions of our children.
There is a reason behind every misbehaviour, instead of punishing the child for inappropriate behaviour, it would be wise to work on the reason behind the that behaviour of a child. Emotional stability plays a huge role in defining the personality and success(both personal and professional) of an individual. And it is not a work of one day, it is a craft of a lifetime. Emotional stability largely depends on your childhood, all the hardships you face, support of others, in short, emotional stability of a person is defined by how life treats him/her and how he/she treats it back.
Here we have a few simple steps to support children emotionally-
The first step is to listen; the power of being heard cannot be ignored, it makes a huge difference in letting the anxiety and frustration out. Once you know the reason behind the emotional disturbance of your child, consider yourself close to finding the solution.
Define the feeling to your child- in many cases, your child is confused the way he/she is behaving. Therefore, define the particular feeling/emotion to your child, like it is okay if you are ‘upset’ that your best friend is not talking to you, it is okay if you are ‘angry’ that your sibling took away your favourite toy. Labelling feeling of your child that would help your child in developing the emotional intelligence by understanding the emotions.
Validate the emotions of your child- everyone needs validation, so does your children. Therefore, validate the emotions of a child by letting them know that you can understand what they are feeling and repeat it to them for the validation.
Empathy- putting yourself in someone’s shoes is not that easy, especially when a person is of different age group. But showing empathy is a great way of making your child feel safe and secure. It always relieves your heart, when you know someone else understands and have recovered from a similar problem as you. Let your child know as a child what you did when you faced a similar problem. But before offering the solution, narrate a similar incident to show empathy, this would make your conversation more relevant and fruitful.
Never hesitate to take professional help- if emotions of your child are unusual and you are not able to understand and solve the emotional problems of your child at your level, it’s okay. Don’t worry! There is nothing wrong in taking the help of an expert.
So let’s sit and discuss emotional intelligence. To make our children future-ready we must consider all the parameters that would make them responsible future adults.
zamit- Let’s begin!